They’re Ready. Are You? Parent’s Guide to Sending Your Child to University
University Results Day is behind you, their place is confirmed and the countdown to moving day has begun.
For your child, starting university can be an exciting new chapter, involving meeting new people, discovering new places and gaining more independence. But when a child moves away from home for the first time, it can be a big transition for parents too.
Many parents find themselves wondering how their child will settle in, make friends, manage their money or cope with being away from home. And if you’re used to being part of their everyday routine, the prospect of a quieter house and having less involvement in their day-to-day life can take some getting used to.
So, how can parents prepare for a child leaving for university? From agreeing how you’ll keep in touch to creating a new routine at home, here are five simple ways to make the transition a little easier.
5 ways to make the transition to university easier for parents:
1. Agree how you’ll keep in touch
Before they leave, have a conversation about what staying in touch might look like. Perhaps you agree on a weekly phone call, regular messages or a Sunday catch-up. Having something to look forward to can help, particularly during the first few weeks.
Try not to worry if they don’t stick to the plan. University life can be busy, especially when everything is new. A missed call doesn’t necessarily mean they’re struggling, they might simply be finding their feet, making friends or enjoying their newfound independence.
2. Know when to take a step back
When a child is living away from home, it can be tempting to check whether they’re eating properly, sleeping enough or making it to their lectures. Before reaching for your phone, take a moment to ask yourself: do they need my help, or am I looking for some reassurance?
If it’s reassurance you’re looking for, try resisting the urge to check in straight away. Give it a little time or talk to a partner, friend or family member about how you’re feeling instead. And when your child does come to you with a problem, remember that they may not always need you to solve it. Sometimes listening, offering reassurance and giving them the space to work out what to do next can be just as valuable.
3. Prepare for things to feel different at home
The house can feel noticeably different once your child has left for university, particularly if family life has shaped your routine for many years. It may take some time to get used to a quieter home or having more time to yourself.
Rather than putting pressure on yourself to immediately fill the gap, think about what you’d like this new chapter to look like for you too. That might mean getting back into an old hobby, seeing friends more often, spending more time with your partner or simply enjoying having a little more time for yourself. A new routine won’t happen overnight but having regular things to look forward to can help life at home feel settled again.
4. Remember that not every wobble means something is wrong
Starting university comes with plenty of ups and downs. Your child might call because they’re feeling homesick, finding their course difficult or having problems with a flatmate – and as a parent, it can be hard not to take those worries on yourself.
Try to listen without immediately assuming something needs to be fixed. A difficult day doesn’t necessarily mean they’re not coping or enjoying university, and giving them the chance to navigate everyday challenges can help build confidence and independence. Of course, you know your child best. If something feels out of character, continues for some time or gives you genuine cause for concern, encourage them to seek appropriate support.
5. Look after your own wellbeing too
While much of the focus may naturally be on helping your child settle in, it’s important to give yourself time to adjust too. If you find yourself worrying about things you can’t control, simple techniques such as mindful breathing, writing down what’s on your mind, getting outside or talking to someone you trust can help you pause and refocus.
For those experiencing feelings of mild anxiety during this period of change, you may also wish to consider a traditional herbal remedy such as Kalms Lavender. Kalms Lavender contains lavender oil and is traditionally used to ease mild anxiety. It comes in a convenient one-a-day soft capsule for those aged 18+ making it simple to incorporate into your routine when life feels a little more challenging.
Find out more about Kalms Lavender.
If feelings of anxiety persist, get worse or start to affect your everyday life, speak to a healthcare professional such as your pharmacist or GP.
Remember: they’re more ready than you think
As university move-in day gets closer, it’s easy to worry about how your child will cope. Just remember, there may be things they get wrong along the way, but that’s all part of becoming more independent. Starting university is about learning, growing and finding their feet and while they’re adjusting to university life, you’ll be adjusting too.
Try to be patient with yourself and remember you’ve spent years helping your child get ready for this next chapter. Now, it’s about finding a new balance and being there when they need you, while giving them the space to discover university life for themselves.
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Posted by Elizabeth Hughes-Gapper
1st September 2026
